Have you ever had something in your head that you WANT to do, but just can’t get yourself to take the needed steps to actually do it?

Maybe it is weight loss, maybe it is education, maybe it’s a project…

What do you do to get motivated? What do you do to make sure that you’re doing something to work towards what you want?

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I’ll even start working on the things and then start second guessing myself. Then I stop.

It’s like a cycle.

The people who go to the gym for like a month, and then all of a sudden disappear into witness protection because they LOST motivation.

You know that you got started. You know that you were working towards making progress, and then you just can’t get back in the groove again.

I totally get it.

It happens to me a lot honestly.

I used to read a lot of books about emotional control, because I knew it was my emotions from things happening in my life that were getting in the way.

The funny thing was that those emotions were from other things happening and had NOTHING to do with the thing that I was actually trying to work on.

People blame anxiety, stress, anger and other emotions on the external things happening. In reality you can choose how you feel.

I’ve struggled with anxety my whole life. Since I was in elementary school actually.

Getting worked up over things that had not happened. Getting worked up because I wanted a specific outcome.

Learning how to manage your own emotions over things you really can’t control is something that you’re not taught at a young age. I wasn’t anyway.

For me, it was always about being better. Doing better. Not about “Look how far you have come”.

There’s a lot of judgment behind that. The opinions of others weighing on my own decisions.

The hardest thing for me was always not living up to others expecations. I had to learn to let go of what other people thought my life should look like.

You know those housing developments where people live in cookie cutter houses? They all look THE SAME.

I felt that I was supposed to be like EVERYONE else. That I was not good enough because my life looked different.

Honestly?…

I still sometimes feel that I’m not good enough because of the opions of others. You have a choice though.

You can let those negative feelings bring you down, or you can recognize what you are feeling and choose to push past it.

It’s hard. I get it.

There’s a book that has helped me in the past, and maybe it will help you too.

Mel Robbins wrote a book called “The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage“. Have you heard of it before?

This is not a full book review, but my take on the benefits of the main strategy that Mel Robbins recommends.

If you want to learn more about the book, check it out HERE.

Robbins gives A LOT of helpful advice in this book. The biggest take away in it though, is “The 5 Second Rule”.

Basically, she explains that just diving in (EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE IT), will create the habits that you need to help you be successful.

Habits are hard to change. It takes time.

One of the biggest killers of a dream is the overthinking preventing you from stepping up.

This strategy helps you get out of your head.

Did you know that negaitve thinking is actually addicitve? Look it up! There’s research about it.

I have found in the past, once you get into a better habit with your thought patterns and reframing your mind, that things become so much easier.

When anxiety or overwhelm creep up, take that deep breath and dive in!

This has helped me in life, with my family, and especially at work.

There will always be things that you don’t want to do, but it has to be done. Overthinking will drag you down and make you feel cruddy.

When you reframe the way you’re thinking. You take that deep breath and go, you push through that discomfort and get through the hard things.

What has been holding you back lately? What has been keeping you from the life that you see yourself having?

Recognize it. Accept that there are things happening. Be willing to get uncomfortable. Outside of your comfort zone is where you will find the things that you WANT in life my friend.

I hope this advice helps someone, or maybe Mel Robbins book will help you more.

What I know, is that when you really want something you will always find a way. When it’s not a priority, you will find all the excuses.

Good luck!

Brooke