It’s been a while! I have been doing some thinking on where I want to take my blogs and social media. I have had A LOT of ideas….but I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do.

Then everything just kinda started happening in my life.

I found this amazing guy. ( I honeslty never thought I wanted to date again after my divorce). He is kinda and caring, and does his best to be thoughtful (especially when needed).

We started looking at houses together. Everything fell through, and then he deployed to Poland and left me. both physically and emotionally.

Once again I was left wonderwhat was the point of everything that happens to us in this world.

I took time to myself. Trying to remember me. Trying to remember who I am, my goals, and what I want to do in this life. What would make everything worth while?

It’s funny, in weird sort of way, that everyone wants to offer their opions. Everyone says what they think would be best. But, you have to think about it. Is their life a life that you want to live? Or do you want something different for your own life?

I mean really, when you listen to the opions of others, they are trying to put you on the same path that they are on.

They are NOT living your life though. They only know things from the outside.

They have no TRUE insights into your thoughts, goals and dreams.

What I have never understood, is why does everyone want to be just like everybody else out there?

Why not be different. Why not be and do the things that make you happy.

At the end of the day, you are the one living with regrets, wants, needs, and feelings. Other people are not living with what is in your own head.

Let me say this…

When I started typing this post, I did not plan on it looking like this.

When I write, everything that has been bottled up tends to come out though. So here it is, LOL. Maybe there is someone out there that needs to read this.

I hope it helps you. I hope you find the courage to stick to your own beliefs. I hope you find the courage to BELIEVE in yourself.

More honesty from me by the way, I tend to cry when I write. Between the memories of the past, the feelings right now, and the dreams of the future, everything collides.

My heart goes out to those who are searching for answers. I hear you. I see you.

If there is one thing I have learned on this journey, it’s that you are never as stuck as you think you are.

Reframe your thoughts. Reframe your perspective. Sometimes a new perspective can help you overcome whatever it is that you are going through.

After all that whirlwind of change, things started to come back together for me again.

The guy I was seeing came back. I bought some land. I bought a new house. We moved in together.

There have been the ups and downs, but that’s life my friends.

You don’t appreciate the good things in life if you never have to deal with the uncomfortable or even the bad.

We all have a past. Many people will never know even half of what you have gone through. Sometimes, experiences of your past seem unreal.

Here’s the thing though….

It was all a learning experience. YOU ARE NOT A PRISONER OF THE PAST!

^^^^^^Read that again ^^^^^^^^^

Your past was meant to be a learning experience to help you move forward.

Some people stay so stuck in the past that they never get to enjoy the good things that are currently happening in their life.

Is that how you want to be?

Yes, some days will be harder than others. You have a choice though.

You have the choice to focus on other things. You have the choice to choose your reactions. You have the choice to do things differently.

I have found that sometimes, it’s better to fight those battles in your head alone so that no one can stop you from becoming a better you.

Opions of others are their own limitations, and I don’t want those limitations on my own life.

Surround yourself with the people who are doing better than you. Surround yourself with the people who will lend an ear, but not try to tell you what path they think you should take.

Let me end with this…

You will NEVER have all the answers. What you need to focus on is the wisdom to get through and overcome.

One of the things that really helps me is listening to, or reading a book that helps me get back into a better mindset.

Jen Sincero wrote a book that I really love called “You Are a Badass®: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” .

If you have never read this book, maybe it can help give you that little push to help you.

Learn more about the book HERE.

I’m rooting for you my friend.

Be back soon!

Brooke

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